hey guys - as this is not an ftm-specific question, just a beard question, i figured i'd post it here.
so... what's the proper way to clean one's beard? Is a beard washed with facewash or soap, like the rest of a person's face? Do people wash their beards with shampoo?
I've only ever stuck my face in the shower for a second and hoped for the best, but lately it's occured to me that maybe I should be doing more than that. What do you guys, or bearded guys who you know, do, in terms of keeping their beards (and maybe mustaches) clean?
I was talking to my therapist about this the other day and she said to get some input from other trans-guys.
I have never had straight male friends, apart from 2 guys who I've grown up with and have been friends with for almost 20 years now. The rest of my friends are gay males or women (both straight and lesbian). Whenever I am around straight males, I tend to feel very intimidated. I know it is for a variety of reasons too.
I am stealth in most situations, I have been on T for 15 months almost, but am pre-op. Especially when I am around the straight guys at work I am very concerned about my chest. I doubt they even notice but I notice if it's looking bigger than other days. The guys at work constantly spew homophobic stuff and constantly objectify women. I think especially because at one point in my life I was living as a woman this really bothers me. I can't find my voice to speak up to them because I feel so intimidated by them. They expect me to join in and I just kind of laugh it off.
I don't feel intimidated by straight guys who I don't know, like strangers on the street. I never feel like I'm in danger because very few people know I'm trans. I tend to feel intimidated by guys I know, which I don't understand why. Sometimes I fear that they'll find out, but I don't think that's the main reason.
Does anyone else feel intimidated by straight men and how do you deal with it?
I used to play softball when I was a kid. I wanted to play Little League, but wasn't allowed to (parents wouldn't let me because I would have had to switch after a certain age or something so they figured it'd be better to play softball and stick with it if I wanted to). I was good at it and enjoyed it ...other than being like WTF when all these girls around me were jumping up and down and yelling softball cheers and I was just sitting on the bench staring at them, because it's fucking softball not cheerleading... haha.
Anyways, I really liked it, it was a big part of my childhood, and I just feel awkward about discussing it because it was SOFTBALL. Are there boys softball leagues that young (I know there are mens' slowpitch leagues for adults)? I don't think there are any around where I live, but if it's not unheard of for boys softball leagues it really wouldn't be a big deal to say I played softball. I feel like if I want to talk about it I have to pretend like I played baseball in Little League, which I guess is OK to do.
I know, not a big deal, just trying to start a topic in this community... and I wonder how many other people feel awkward if they played softball because it's such a typical "girls' sport".
ETA: Mis-stated that last part. I mean about it being awkward as a kid because, at least where I live, it was generally supposed to be a females-only sport. Obviously it's not as awkward when you're an adult playing on a mens' or co-ed team.